How many times has it happened that you call someone and they don’t pick up your call? What if the trend keeps continuing with an average of more than twice a week? Does that become a cause of worry? Do you get insecure?
Let me tell you what I do.
I FREAK OUT! Even if it is for a while, I freak out when my favorite humans don’t return my calls. I have a good patience level in these matters. I understand that everyone is busy and are juggling with priorities. These priorities leave little or no time for them to utilize in a conversation with me. But what I certainly don’t or cannot understand is the fact that why would it take someone more than a week to respond back?
Yes, I can logically and emotionally understand your perspective but not getting even 2 minutes out of an entire week cannot be justified unless something drastic has happened. It is not easy staying positive during this time as the insecurity builds at a rapid place. You are very likely to react in a very bad way and end up arguing with that person. That won’t end well.
I agree you want to vent out your disappointment and anger that they could not even provide you with the basic attention of 2 minutes. You expected something and they could not deliver. That hurts.
What you can do?
Well, for starters, not being angry is the main motto. Not raising your voice is the second. You can let the other person know that you are upset in a very civil tone. I know it takes time. (Believe me when I say this… I could have gotten angry earlier at the drop of a hat).
But please talk to that person whenever they call back. Remember that when you avoid them as a mode of payback, they might not understand. There will be a broken bridge between you two. Also, try thinking from their perspective as well. Give them the benefit of doubt. And finally, if you want to talk to someone or miss them, give them a call. Do not think it makes you look desperate or needy. Do not bring your ego in front. If you miss the person or want to talk to them, you give them a call or drop them a text. It’s totally their decision to answer or delay their response. But if you like them and their company, call them every time.