Tag: Friends

E is for Envy – A to Z Challenge 2019

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Alec, Isabelle and Magnus were friends for over a decade. Right from their schooling till they graduated these three were thick as thieves. Magnus was the hard working student, made time for friends, worked a shift post college to support his parents. Naturally, he’d be on a timer always. There are 24 hours in a day and Magnus makes the best out of it.

Magnus always was doing something and had something to look forward to. There was never a time that he had nothing to do. Alec and Isabelle would envy him for that.

What just happened?

Like Alec and Isabelle, we envy our friends or colleagues who are doing a lot i.e. utilizing their time very well. We don’t see the part where the person is running on all cylinders by working hard.

What could have happened?

It’s easy to have this feeling of envy within you. Before you could be envious, understand what the other person is doing and analyze if you could pull this off for even a week. I’m sure you’ll get clarity.

This post is written as part of the annual A to Z Challenge where for each day of April (except Sundays) I shall write a post based on the letters part of 26 alphabets. 

I have been participating in this challenge since 2015. To read more of my posts from the “A to Z Challenge” CLICK HERE

F is for Frenemy – A2Z Challenge 2019

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Friends are good. Enemies are bad. Frenemies are…..?
Murphy and Raven have been good friends. Raven thinks Murphy is such a good friend and has always stood by her no matter what. Murphy on the other hand considers Raven sometimes as a friend and sometimes as an foe.
Raven is better than Murphy in studies. This made Murphy jealous of her and these led to arguments and these arguments turn into fights. Jealousy does that. Friends are friends for a while they can turn into an enemy the very next day. 
Frenemies are worse than the enemies. As enemies are known but Frenemies are hard to identity. 
This applies at work too. Even when co-employees are best friends, one getting promotion is not taken well by the other co-employee. The frenemy will  have a fake laugh during the celebration.
Friends are friends when they are equal. The moment one gets more successful professionally or more happy personally, not all can take it the right way. Friends get jealous and jealousy turns into making them frenemy. These frenemies will be happy in your sadness but pretend that they’re sad. 
What just happened?
Friends turn into frenemies when they become selfish and personal needs and wants takes over the friendship. They can’t be happy for their friend’s success and they don’t want to be the one to adjust.
What could have happened?
Being happy in others happiness. Don’t compare your life with them, live the life together.  Everyone has a different chart to create and acquire. Compare your today with your yesterday, not with your friends today and tomorrow. Happy are those that have friends and near ones that celebrate each milestone you achieve.

This post is written as part of the annual A to Z Challenge where for each day of April (except Sundays) I shall write a post based on the letters part of 26 alphabets. 

I have been participating in this challenge since 2015. To read more of my posts from the “A to Z Challenge” CLICK HERE

One of the best pictures of Lance, Jessica and Brendon

B is for Bluff – A2Z Challenge 2019

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Bluff.

Barney and Robin had been friends for over a decade. Robin always had been the one speaking honestly and being truthful. Barney would manipulate as per situations and would find it tough to be honest about almost anything.

If Robin wants to go to a new restaurant and Barney doesn’t want to, he’d bluff her by mentioning that he’s already been to that place. The same applies to movies, random meetings and many more situations. On the other hand, Robin will always be honest. If she doesn’t want to meet because she wants to chill at home, then that’s what she will say.

What just happened?

This is a classic case of bluffing which will then turn into manipulating and lying in order to escape from every situation.

What could have been?

I’ve been on both ends and I can tell you that bluffing, lying and manipulating will bring Barney nothing. Only stress and tension. Being truthful like Robin however brings clarity. Yes, people won’t like your answer. They might feel like you are ignoring them and might even distance themselves from you.

But don’t you worry. The real ones will stick back. They’ll be annoyed but won’t leave your side. Being honest is a blessing to your mind. It helps you be positive, stay motivated and plan for the future.

10th anniversary special for A to Z Challenge

This post is written as part of the annual A to Z Challenge where for each day of April (except Sundays) I shall write a post based on the letters part of 26 alphabets. 

I have been participating in this challenge since 2015. To read more of my posts from the “A to Z Challenge” CLICK HERE

The one with the Longest Pending Meeting

The One With The Longest Pending Meeting

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Longest Pending meeting is one of the most epic Friendship stories ever!

Overall:

I like my life.

I’ve seen a fair share of moments; both good and small.

I enjoy the little moments and little things that people do for me.

It gives me joy and happiness knowing that somewhere, I’m loved.

 

2018 (January to August):

But that’s not how this year began for me in 2018.

2018 began with a bang for me when I left my job in the field of finance after 3 long years for good. Content writing was my calling and I was going to pursue it. (Copy that!)

Then after 1 month of being jobless, I got the luxury of going for a family trip abroad with my parents. That was one priceless month.

Post the trip there were 3 months of joblessness with my parents worried for me, friends looking to endorse and suggest my name for interviews.

Getting a good night’s sleep was not at all available. I still went through that sleepless and tension phase which never let me sleep in peace.

At the end of May, I got my first break in content writing. Ever since then I’ve been happy. I keep writing, go home on time and smile more often for the past 3 months.

September:

September began too with a bang!

One of my oldest school friends surprised us by flying down from the USA for his brother’s engagement.

I was the first one to know and one by one, everyone was given a separate surprise. This was the first time in 2.5 years that we all were together in one city.

This image was clicked during the engagement party and I must tell you that the moment here is priceless and I’m going to cherish it for a very long time!

Longest pending meeting between friends

With this, I request you to share a moment in this year which was the best so far post the longest pending meeting.

Let’s share the happiness with all!

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When You Don’t Answer the Call

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How many times has it happened that you call someone and they don’t pick up your call? What if the trend keeps continuing with an average of more than twice a week? Does that become a cause of worry? Do you get insecure?

Let me tell you what I do.

I FREAK OUT! Even if it is for a while, I freak out when my favorite humans don’t return my calls. I have a good patience level in these matters. I understand that everyone is busy and are juggling with priorities. These priorities leave little or no time for them to utilize in a conversation with me. But what I certainly don’t or cannot understand is the fact that why would it take someone more than a week to respond back?

Yes, I can logically and emotionally understand your perspective but not getting even 2 minutes out of an entire week cannot be justified unless something drastic has happened. It is not easy staying positive during this time as the insecurity builds at a rapid place. You are very likely to react in a very bad way and end up arguing with that person. That won’t end well.

I agree you want to vent out your disappointment and anger that they could not even provide you with the basic attention of 2 minutes. You expected something and they could not deliver. That hurts.

What you can do?

Well, for starters, not being angry is the main motto. Not raising your voice is the second. You can let the other person know that you are upset in a very civil tone. I know it takes time. (Believe me when I say this… I could have gotten angry earlier at the drop of a hat).

But please talk to that person whenever they call back. Remember that when you avoid them as a mode of payback, they might not understand. There will be a broken bridge between you two. Also, try thinking from their perspective as well. Give them the benefit of doubt. And finally, if you want to talk to someone or miss them, give them a call. Do not think it makes you look desperate or needy. Do not bring your ego in front. If you miss the person or want to talk to them, you give them a call or drop them a text. It’s totally their decision to answer or delay their response. But if you like them and their company, call them every time.