I speak of this with such conviction as many times I have been a Victim and sometimes the Instigator.
When I’ve been the VICTIM, its the usual; feeling sad, replaying the event ( which according to me is the worst thing an individual can torture himself to), thinking of how I could have ended the spat. Thinking of evil plans sometimes to get back at him/her, etc.
When I’ve been the CULPRIT, I really tend to lose it, and the opposite person has it from me. It’s like a wave of anger for no reason. Maybe that person didn’t get my notebook but I’ll shout at him like he murdered my family. Sounds too vague right?
But that’s how some of us behave. And then comes the next stage for us I.e. the time of GUILT.
After I shout at people for hardly a reason worth shouting, I feel terrible like a heartless stone-cold monster. That feeling kills me and never gets me to peace. All that I think then is forgiveness. I know it won’t change things as “Words once spoken can never be taken back”.
But by apologizing, there would be a certain level of peace and content.
Thus it’s really good to be patient as being calm will always help. Saying a sorry would never make u feel like a small guy or as a person accepting defeat.
Thus it’s better many a times to forgive and forget as Holding on to a thought keeps hurting you in every interval of your precious life!
Hence if you wish to hurt someone, please take a step back and think.
See the situation from their angle and then accordingly take action.
Here are my past posts for the A to Z Challenge