How are you? 

I am okay/fine.

This is the most fake conversation you are bound to have many times during your lifetime. Yes, think about it. How many times have you used this phrase without speaking the truth? We are stressed, tired, irritated, angry, disappointed but we will say that we are fine.

 

Why do we lie?

Firstly the main reason for doing this is because we want to dodge the next conversation that will happen the moment we say “I’m not okay/fine”. Also, we don’t like sharing our feeling at that very moment with everyone. That is a right thing to do but it’s a small burden you carry lying around people telling them you are fine when you’re not. The people around you will go around their business and will talk normally. They wouldn’t know the storm brewing inside you. They also wouldn’t be able to figure out that you’re crying from the inside.

 

Why would they?

You just said that you’re fine.

Instead of doing all this, why don’t you start to tell the people around you about what you feel. Yes, you don’t need to tell them exactly what the issue is. Just say the words “I am not okay. It’s something I’m dealing with which I cannot discuss”.

Speaking like this helps. First, the people around you are conscious of the fact that you’re not okay. Hence the way they speak will change. If you have a comfort friend, talk to him/her and get it out of your chest. Keeping the storm inside of you won’t stop anything. It is just a delay. This delay will result into a catastrophe someday!

If you cannot divulge any details, it’s fine.

But don’t lie when asked, “Are you okay?”

Okay?

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P is for P is for Paragnosia which means misunderstanding.

This has to be one of my favorite choice due to the meaning. For everyone, paragnosia does visit once a while. Some do that on a regular scale. We tend to understand what we hear or what we thought we heard. This often leads to a lot of confusion and that either ends in an argument or weirdly works in your favor. Unfortunately, the possibility of the latter happening is very less. But for you to have an argument will be of the highest possibility.

But why does all of this happen? It’s simple… We don’t talk.

It can be ego or the friction caused doesn’t let us go ahead to talk and clear out with the other person. But we simply don’t talk. Since no one initiates the conversation, the misunderstanding surely escalates into a fight where in the end both the parties lose their favorite friend/love etc. Why make life so complicated. Just ask. Yes, it will make you look dumb and a possibility of it being your mistake can arise. You can apologize and get back on track. If there was confusion, talking would erase it or the friendship but it will be beneficial. Why I say beneficial is because when we keep all this in our mind pending, it affects us in our daily life. Our decisions, movements, sleeping, eating etc everything will have this running around in the back of your mind.

You have one mind and it has a lot of productive work to do. Instead of letting it do that one important job, we run these issues up and come up with possible scenarios that result in overthinking and ultimately into disaster. Don’t torture your mind and self so much. The next time if you feel someone misunderstood what you said or felt, just go ahead and talk. Do not expect the other person to come ahead and discuss that. They might be clueless.

This post is part of the A to Z Challenge 2018.

You can check my posts of this series right from 2015 till date – CLICK HERE

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O is for Obolary which means extremely poor.

For everyone, the words rich and poor is generally connected with wealth they hold. Only until now that people have started searching richness in things more valuable than money. In today’s time a human who can earn a decent livelihood, work 9 to 5, come home by 6 and spend time with his family is considered rich. Those who get a decent sleep at the weekend, have less tension, are more clear in their objectives are rich. Also, those who have few close beings that are always there no matter what are rich.

There are shows like “Friends” and “How I met your mother” which show a decade full of life of those in their late 20’s and how life is messy with never ending problems. But if you have few friends/family along with you always, then you are indeed rich. Today I do know few friends who really have a lot of money but have no friends. They spent their time earning and lost everyone on the way as they couldn’t give them their time. There are some who neglected their near and dear ones. Now they regret their decision but there’s no one to complain to.

That means being poor. Being obolary is when you have no one to talk to, no one to share your issues with and no one whom you can instantly dial and speak rubbish without being judged. In conclusion, so what if you don’t have a lot of money? You might be in debt but you’ll claw out of it eventually. If you have love and friendship around you in your bad and good times, then my friend… smile because you are rich.

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