How many times has it happened that you call someone and they don’t pick up your call? What if the trend keeps continuing with an average of more than twice a week? Does that become a cause of worry? Do you get insecure?

Let me tell you what I do.

I FREAK OUT! Even if it is for a while, I freak out when my favorite humans don’t return my calls. I have a good patience level in these matters. I understand that everyone is busy and are juggling with priorities. These priorities leave little or no time for them to utilize in a conversation with me. But what I certainly don’t or cannot understand is the fact that why would it take someone more than a week to respond back?

Yes, I can logically and emotionally understand your perspective but not getting even 2 minutes out of an entire week cannot be justified unless something drastic has happened. It is not easy staying positive during this time as the insecurity builds at a rapid place. You are very likely to react in a very bad way and end up arguing with that person. That won’t end well.

I agree you want to vent out your disappointment and anger that they could not even provide you with the basic attention of 2 minutes. You expected something and they could not deliver. That hurts.

What you can do?

Well, for starters, not being angry is the main motto. Not raising your voice is the second. You can let the other person know that you are upset in a very civil tone. I know it takes time. (Believe me when I say this… I could have gotten angry earlier at the drop of a hat).

But please talk to that person whenever they call back. Remember that when you avoid them as a mode of payback, they might not understand. There will be a broken bridge between you two. Also, try thinking from their perspective as well. Give them the benefit of doubt. And finally, if you want to talk to someone or miss them, give them a call. Do not think it makes you look desperate or needy. Do not bring your ego in front. If you miss the person or want to talk to them, you give them a call or drop them a text. It’s totally their decision to answer or delay their response. But if you like them and their company, call them every time.

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W is for Wale which means to choose.

The act of choosing is sometimes very easy and sometimes too tough. Yes, it depends on every situation. For today, I want you to consider the act of choosing after a fight. One scenario is of 2 friends or a couple. They get into an argument and  for some reason the fight escalates to a level of no return. Post the fight, they stop talking to each other. If they belong to a group of 5-6 people, every meeting gets awkward or might lead them to fight again. Hence, you are given an option to choose a side.

This is where the problem lies. If you choose one side, you lose one person’s trust. You  haven’t hurt them at all. But since you chose the other person, you’re considered an enemy now. I don’t like this setting. It only brings more hurt to those who have not done anything wrong. A misunderstanding between two can break friendships of over 2 years easily. It hurts. It also makes me question about why have I to choose?

Although you should never ever ask your friends to pick a side in the first place. Being a grown up is not an extraordinary achievement. Acting like one is. If there’s  a fight among 2, have the decency to sort it out without involving the others. If you need their involvement, then please don’t make them choose sides. Sometimes the arguments are for minuscule matters but it’s enough to break a fragile friendship. Which also makes me question if we should choose our friends wisely? That seems impossible as you cannot figure out a person in the first meeting. It takes time. So all we can do is wait and in time wale our friends/partners wisely.

This post is part of the A to Z Challenge 2018.

You can check my posts of this series right from 2015 till date – CLICK HERE

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S is for Snell which means quick, keen and sharp.

I like people who are sharp in their thoughts and words. They have a clear mindset. They don’t forget what you said a minute ago, a year ago or a decade ago. It is impossible to fake or lie your way out of an argument with them. You will be roasted. Having such people around you is fruitful in many ways. You always have a decent conversation and there is no crap.

This also brings me to another aspect. It is possible that you have a bad memory. You can rejoice as having snell people will help you remember everything. I say this with confidence as I am the one with a very bad memory. I usually do not remember birthdays, important dates, advice given, idea shared and even sometimes what has been spoken a day ago. But having such friends who always remind me makes me feel blessed.

It makes me wonder how must it feel to always know it all. It also makes me wonder if it is kind of bad to have such sharpness throughout the day. There are many who will be disappointed when they are corrected by you. There are also chances you’ll make few frenemies or enemies due to your quick reactions. But does that mean you have to stop being yourself? NO! You don’t have to change. It’s rare to have such abilities. Being like this will help you filter out the plastic people out of your life. Also, your words and advice will be heard genuinely.

In conclusion, if you happen to have such people in your life, you are lucky. Hold them close as they’re precious.

This post is part of the A to Z Challenge 2018.

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