W is for Wale which means to choose.

The act of choosing is sometimes very easy and sometimes too tough. Yes, it depends on every situation. For today, I want you to consider the act of choosing after a fight. One scenario is of 2 friends or a couple. They get into an argument and  for some reason the fight escalates to a level of no return. Post the fight, they stop talking to each other. If they belong to a group of 5-6 people, every meeting gets awkward or might lead them to fight again. Hence, you are given an option to choose a side.

This is where the problem lies. If you choose one side, you lose one person’s trust. You  haven’t hurt them at all. But since you chose the other person, you’re considered an enemy now. I don’t like this setting. It only brings more hurt to those who have not done anything wrong. A misunderstanding between two can break friendships of over 2 years easily. It hurts. It also makes me question about why have I to choose?

Although you should never ever ask your friends to pick a side in the first place. Being a grown up is not an extraordinary achievement. Acting like one is. If there’s  a fight among 2, have the decency to sort it out without involving the others. If you need their involvement, then please don’t make them choose sides. Sometimes the arguments are for minuscule matters but it’s enough to break a fragile friendship. Which also makes me question if we should choose our friends wisely? That seems impossible as you cannot figure out a person in the first meeting. It takes time. So all we can do is wait and in time wale our friends/partners wisely.

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S is for Snell which means quick, keen and sharp.

I like people who are sharp in their thoughts and words. They have a clear mindset. They don’t forget what you said a minute ago, a year ago or a decade ago. It is impossible to fake or lie your way out of an argument with them. You will be roasted. Having such people around you is fruitful in many ways. You always have a decent conversation and there is no crap.

This also brings me to another aspect. It is possible that you have a bad memory. You can rejoice as having snell people will help you remember everything. I say this with confidence as I am the one with a very bad memory. I usually do not remember birthdays, important dates, advice given, idea shared and even sometimes what has been spoken a day ago. But having such friends who always remind me makes me feel blessed.

It makes me wonder how must it feel to always know it all. It also makes me wonder if it is kind of bad to have such sharpness throughout the day. There are many who will be disappointed when they are corrected by you. There are also chances you’ll make few frenemies or enemies due to your quick reactions. But does that mean you have to stop being yourself? NO! You don’t have to change. It’s rare to have such abilities. Being like this will help you filter out the plastic people out of your life. Also, your words and advice will be heard genuinely.

In conclusion, if you happen to have such people in your life, you are lucky. Hold them close as they’re precious.

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O is for Obolary which means extremely poor.

For everyone, the words rich and poor is generally connected with wealth they hold. Only until now that people have started searching richness in things more valuable than money. In today’s time a human who can earn a decent livelihood, work 9 to 5, come home by 6 and spend time with his family is considered rich. Those who get a decent sleep at the weekend, have less tension, are more clear in their objectives are rich. Also, those who have few close beings that are always there no matter what are rich.

There are shows like “Friends” and “How I met your mother” which show a decade full of life of those in their late 20’s and how life is messy with never ending problems. But if you have few friends/family along with you always, then you are indeed rich. Today I do know few friends who really have a lot of money but have no friends. They spent their time earning and lost everyone on the way as they couldn’t give them their time. There are some who neglected their near and dear ones. Now they regret their decision but there’s no one to complain to.

That means being poor. Being obolary is when you have no one to talk to, no one to share your issues with and no one whom you can instantly dial and speak rubbish without being judged. In conclusion, so what if you don’t have a lot of money? You might be in debt but you’ll claw out of it eventually. If you have love and friendship around you in your bad and good times, then my friend… smile because you are rich.

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