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Valentine raised Jace to be a winner. He was so proud of his son who would always excel in everything whether it is athletics, academics and even music. There was nothing Jace could not win in. For him, it was important as Valentine was an excellent student himself. Coming first was the only option. Nothing else was deemed as acceptable.

On one such occasion, Jace stood second in his class. He thought his Father Valentine would only be a little upset. But the effect was catastrophic. Valentine stopped talking to his son. He wouldn’t look or talk to him.

This affected Jace a lot. He understood that to gain his father’s affection again, he must stand first again. He studied all day and night. Rarely slept. This began affecting his health. But he ignored it. It reached till a point that he passed out after few days and had to be admitted.

Valentine then realized how his actions affected his little child.

What just happened?

As a parent, Valentine indirectly put so much pressure on his child, that he crumbled.

What could have been?

Parents need to understand that a child doesn’t realize what mental pressure can do. But you do know. Keeping conditions like Valentine will affect your child in a wrong way. They need unconditional love and not the love that comes with an asterisk mark!

This post is written as part of the annual A to Z Challenge where for each day of April (except Sundays) I shall write a post based on the letters part of 26 alphabets. 

I have been participating in this challenge since 2015. To read more of my posts from the “A to Z Challenge” CLICK HERE

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Time.

This 4 letter word sounds simple and has a meaning which is different to every single being on this planet. Time waits for no one. It goes on and on. There will be a beginning for us and an end, but time will be there.

Knowing all this, I’d want to gather your attention to a topic you might relate to; “Giving your time”

Giving your time can be interpreted as giving it for your work, your passion, your love, your friends, your family and sometimes yourself.

The main question being, “Are you giving enough time to everyone?”

By everyone I mean that small list of people who matter the most to you; whose existence matter to you; their opinions you value the most; whose absence will hurt like nothing else you’ve ever felt.

If you’re doing that, then boy I’m proud of you. It’s tough to manage even a small list of 5-10 people.

Many of us like me find it difficult to manage time for those we like. When we fail to do so, we get to hear lines like,

  • You don’t have time for me.
  • There’s 24 hours in a day and you have not a minute for me.
  • You found new friends.
  • Your phone is more important.
  • Your work is more important.

Firstly, It hurts. Yes, it hurts both ways. Of course you had a lot of work and couldn’t get in time for the family movie. And yes, you got so lost in reading that book that you forgot to meet your parents and take them out for dinner. Of course that on the one holiday you got for the week, you decided to sleep and rest and not meet your friends.

We often see our side of the story and fail to see the other side of the story. The only thing you need to do here is to make up for that lost time.

Simple.

Yes, you couldn’t make it in time for the movie. Make sure you make it for the next one soon.

Yes, you slept off the entire Sunday and didn’t meet your friends. Make sure you meet them soon.

Although the only thing that matters is your effort. If that effort takes long, then with time, there will be a distance between you guys. It’s tough to break that. It’s even more tough to take more effort to make it work.

For what it’s worth, don’t let it reach that stage. Take those actions soon. Many don’t have even 2-3 people around them asking about their well being. You have more. Don’t lose it.

Lastly, a special mention goes to those with parents. Give them time. Even if it’s a 1 minute call; do it everyday. You don’t know what’s in store for tomorrow. It doesn’t matter that you’re neck deep in work or too tired to move a muscle. Talk to them. It really matters to them.

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Today’s topic is about breaking the stereotype in a family life situation,

 

Sunday mornings means I go to church!

Firstly to make it clear, I do like going for mass.

Also, it’s one time of the week when I get to hear my favorite choir sing and that’s awesome.

Today’s sermon gave me an idea which I had to convert into a blog post.

The thought is about 90% of us being part of a stereotype. When given a situation, 90% of us would always see just one side of it.

For me to convince you about being part of a stereotype, let’s look at a situation.

Situation:

There are 4 people in the family. The first person “A” enters home with an empty bottle. That person throws the bottle on the floor and then proceeds to hit one of the family member “B”.

There’s “C” who is reading the newspaper and is scared to interfere.

The last person “D” is engrossed using the smartphone and is scared to react.

 

So what did you imagine?

 

Did you imagine a drunk father entering the house post his drinking session and hitting the wife while the kids just watched and were scared to react?

It’s not wrong to think like that. I did that too.

Although, why couldn’t it be the elder sister entering home and raising her hand on the younger brother while the old parents watched because they were too weak to react?

It’s because we as a society show domestic and physical abuse only through the eyes of a drunk man!

To conclude, this topic did ring some bells and got me thinking about how we react to certain situations unknowingly.

We just don’t see the whole picture.We judge directly without proper research.

 

Either you can share my thinking or can question my thoughts. I’d love to hear your views on this topic.

Happy Sunday!

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