W is for Wale which means to choose.

The act of choosing is sometimes very easy and sometimes too tough. Yes, it depends on every situation. For today, I want you to consider the act of choosing after a fight. One scenario is of 2 friends or a couple. They get into an argument and  for some reason the fight escalates to a level of no return. Post the fight, they stop talking to each other. If they belong to a group of 5-6 people, every meeting gets awkward or might lead them to fight again. Hence, you are given an option to choose a side.

This is where the problem lies. If you choose one side, you lose one person’s trust. You  haven’t hurt them at all. But since you chose the other person, you’re considered an enemy now. I don’t like this setting. It only brings more hurt to those who have not done anything wrong. A misunderstanding between two can break friendships of over 2 years easily. It hurts. It also makes me question about why have I to choose?

Although you should never ever ask your friends to pick a side in the first place. Being a grown up is not an extraordinary achievement. Acting like one is. If there’s  a fight among 2, have the decency to sort it out without involving the others. If you need their involvement, then please don’t make them choose sides. Sometimes the arguments are for minuscule matters but it’s enough to break a fragile friendship. Which also makes me question if we should choose our friends wisely? That seems impossible as you cannot figure out a person in the first meeting. It takes time. So all we can do is wait and in time wale our friends/partners wisely.

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V is for Vaurien which means good for nothing.

Of all the words I have ever been exposed to, the one I absolutely loathe is “Useless”. This can also be translated to “good for nothing”. I believe no one should be called this. Sure, you think it’s just a general term but the damage that it can do is nothing less than a catastrophe.

Have you ever wondered when you call a person good for nothing? Do you know for sure there is nothing that they can do right? It’s very harsh and outright rude. Telling this to a child can scar them for life. Yes, words hurt more than they should. Calling a child useless (Vaurien) makes him to believe that he indeed cannot do something. You are creating a barrier in his mind right from the start. Doing that limits his/her capability and they are always held back. A child learns better than us adults simply because they have no fear of being judged nor do they have any barriers. We adults do have such inhibitions and hence take more time to learn something new.

I usually do make sure no one uses that word around me. It’s not a good practice and hence please do not encourage it. It’s not only for kids but also for adults. For those who have a fragile heart or are going through a bad time, hearing these words can break them completely. If they start believing that they are good for nothing, getting them out of that phase can take years. My only request to you is that you don’t use this word nor encourage it. I pray that you see the good in people always and make their life better.

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U is for Ubiquitous which means present everywhere.

Time is something that doesn’t wait for you, me or anyone else. Our problems however always wait for us. They are there today, tomorrow and for the whole year. Facing them alone is alright and brave. But having someone around to hear you rant and cry during these times is a luxury. I call it a luxury as it’s not always that everyone can remove time for us. They have a life too and have their own shit to go through. If they still manage time for you and are ubiquitous then you are lucky.

Being present every time for someone is a selfless act. In today’s time this word applies to only few people. Yes, parents are always ubiquitous for most of us. Blessed are those who have them and get to talk to them daily. But apart from them there are friends/companions who remove time for you. They do it out of their sheer love towards you. Be nice to them. Thank them once a while for being there when you needed them the most. Remember that there are many that don’t have such gems in their life. They fight a lone battle and it’s not a good sight.

To be honest with you people, I am not selfless. My friends know I don’t pick up any calls at night no matter what the situation. I value my sleep to be more important. My belief is that when you’re dealing with a problem, it is existing even during the day time. Hence you can talk to me during the day right up till 12 in the night. Yes, I agree that is very selfish and harsh but that’s how I’ve been. Have I lost few people due to this? Possibly yes. After all this, there are few who are still there for me when I need them. They don’t ignore my calls or messages. If I need them, they’re there for me. So I thank all of you to the moon and back for being there for me.

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